Framed as "reassurance" but it's surveillance. It always escalates.
Going through your phone, demanding passwords, or reading your messages isn't a sign that someone cares deeply — it's a sign they don't trust you and are willing to violate your privacy to manage their own anxiety. Psychologist Ramani Durvasula identifies this as a hallmark of controlling behavior that typically escalates. Today it's your phone. Tomorrow it's questioning why you talked to a coworker. It's often framed as "I just need reassurance," but healthy reassurance doesn't require surveillance.

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