Bad-Mouthing Every Single Ex

If every ex was "crazy," "toxic," or "the worst," the common denominator isn't the exes. People who lack the self-awareness to acknowledge their role in past relationship failures will lack the self-awareness to be a good partner to you. Therapist Jeff Guenther (known as TherapyJeff on TikTok) emphasizes that emotionally mature people can discuss past relationships with nuance — acknowledging mutual contributions to the breakup. Someone who paints themselves as the perpetual victim in every relationship is telling you exactly who they'll say you are too.