Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Harville Hendrix's "Imago Relationship Therapy" is built on a provocative idea: you're unconsciously attracted to partners who resemble the caretakers who wounded you in childhood, because your psyche is trying to heal old injuries through new relationships. The "Imago Dialogue" technique — structured mirroring, validation, and empathy — has been taught to millions of couples and is a staple of couples therapy training programs. Hendrix and his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt practice what they preach — they divorced, did the work, and remarried each other.